When we think about weddings, what comes to mind is the whimsical event we see as outside observers. What we don’t see is the stress involved in bringing the ceremony to fruition. When approaching how to plan your own wedding, you might wonder if feeling overwhelmed is part of the experience.
Let’s discuss wedding day stress and how to manage the frustrations involved with planning such a monumental event.
It’s Normal to Feel Stressed
Your wedding day is one of life’s biggest milestones, and because of this, plenty of brides and grooms-to-be want to take every measure to make sure it goes off without a hitch. All the planning and organization that goes into a wedding can become a heavy burden quite quickly.
There is a lot going on, so it’s normal to feel stressed as the big day approaches. Most people deal with some form of wedding jitters, so you’re not alone.
Communication is Key Before the Big Day
On the day of your wedding, you’re going to start an exciting new chapter of your life with the person you love. A huge part of a good marriage involves effective communication between yourself and your spouse.
Start before the wedding by sharing your concerns and worries with your partner. The upcoming event is meant to celebrate the two of you, so the stresses and burdens should be shared between you as well.
Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling, what’s on your mind, and the concerns that are weighing you down before your wedding day. Communication is a great skill to work on before, during, and after you get married.
Do Something You Enjoy if You’re Feeling Overwhelmed
When you’re feeling bogged down by all the intricate details surrounding the big day, take a break. Pushing yourself through planning when you’re already overwhelmed rarely creates a positive outcome. Instead, when you feel the stress pressing down on you, step away and take part in an activity you enjoy.
Leave your wedding stresses where they are and walk your pet, see a movie with your partner, go out to lunch with a friend, etc. Doing this will help you get back into a positive mindset and provide more insight into your problems than staying in a stressful moment.
Focus on Your Priorities; Forget the Rest
Even if you spend countless hours planning every last detail of your wedding day, you may still find something you’re not satisfied with. This is likely because you’re thinking too hard about the details and putting too much emphasis on the event rather than the reason behind it.
Focus on your priorities. You’re getting ready to say “I do” to the person you choose to spend your life with. You’re celebrating your love in front of people you want to share the experience with. The small details won’t matter so much when the wedding is over, so try to let go of some of the troublesome details and enjoy the moments as they come.
Plan for Extra Expenses to Come Up
Added expenses have a way of cropping up when you’re planning a wedding, so if you have a budget in mind, try to stay within the limits early in the planning phase. You’ll almost certainly come across additional costs, so having a bit of money put aside for surprise expenses is a smart strategy to adopt.
Kick Comparison to the Curb
Your wedding is going to be unique, because you and your partner are one-of-a-kind people. As such, it’s good to avoid comparing yourself to other brides/grooms, comparing your venue to other venues, or comparing the event itself with other weddings you’ve been to. While finding inspiration in other wedding themes and adopting good ideas is part of the planning process, remember your individuality and don’t place too much emphasis on how similar or different your wedding is going to be.
Don’t allow yourself to entertain the comparison of others, either. You’ll probably run into well-intentioned “Your aunt Edna’s wedding…” comments, but let them go in one ear and out the other. Your wedding is special and it doesn’t need to be like anyone else’s.
Don’t Take On Too Much
Organizing the finer elements of your wedding can become overwhelming, especially if you’re planning the event without a professional. Taking on too many responsibilities while you’re planning can leave you feeling burnt out, so it’s important to be aware of your limits.
Accepting help where it’s available will help take some of the workload off your plate. For example, choosing an established venue with an experienced team behind you can help you free up time for planning the more exciting parts of your wedding.
Esperanza Ranch’s authentic barn and ranch venue is great for weddings, because our bookings include wedding video/audio customization, an LED backlit waterfall cascading down a rock grado into the feature pond, outdoor audio features, Wi-Fi access, security personnel, a catering kitchen, tables, chairs, an onsite event representative, and extensive space for up to 220 guests.
Let us help you plan the wedding of your dreams and take care of the venue stresses you may be facing. Contact Esperanza Ranch to book a tour.